Ways to Connect: Rocks, Crystals Minerals.

Hello everyone, Mysty here back with another Ways to Connect post.

In this post, we’re going to talk about some ways that you can bond with your solid friends. (See what I did there? No? Okay)

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I’ve been a fan of rocks, crystals and minerals (from now on I’m going to use a collective term ‘rocks’ for all of these) for most of my life. I’m not going to get into that because you can literally find this information on any one on my Stone related blog posts, or Why I am a Pagan, Why I am a Witch, posts.



So, let’s get down to it. If you have any rock doesn’t matter where it comes from, but hopefully its ethically sourced, you can bond with it pretty well, if it likes you, aha.

No really. Rocks are pretty picky when it comes to working with people, but there are some types such as pyrite, quartz varieties (including amethyst & rose quartz), aventurine, howlite, obsidian varieties, jasper varieties, and so on, who are not as picky as other rocks so they will actually not really mind who they work with.

It’s a good idea to work with energy first before working with stones. Working & energy exercises are essential to do before continuing to purchase rocks. Have a look at my post Energy Play. https://mystnokomis.home.blog/2019/05/01/witchy-wednesday-energy-play/

So once you can have a feel for the difference between positive and negative energies, then you can continue with looking for rocks that would like to work with you.

It’s as simple as asking them, “would you like to work with me?” if the rock says yes or no, then it should be clear if they want to come home with you. But, be warned, just like my pendulum post, rocks can also go.. astray. https://mystnokomis.home.blog/2019/04/07/how-to-use-a-pendulum/

Wow I have so many links to my own work for this topic, sorry guys. But you should really check out these posts because they cover some important information that you either have or haven’t heard about which are absolutely essential before bonding with anything spiritually.

Let’s get down to it.


You have a rock, crystal, stone, mineral in your hands. You just either bought it or picked it up.

You think to yourself, what is the purpose of even buying these?

That is a good question. A very good question you might say.

Why does one even need to buy these. Well, the truth is, you don’t specifically NEED any, but you can choose to have them.

Some uses can be:

  • Help you with meditations.
  • Spell work. Small little tumbles can be added to spell bottles
  • Rituals. Maybe your Obsidian can be a Goddess representation and a Quartz for the God. If you’re Wiccan I should say
  • Rituals. Maybe they will amplify your spell into the universe?
  • Just sit down and have a chat to your new crystal/stone/rock. How does it feel? How does your mood change once spending time with it? Do you feel more energized? More relaxed, calm, angry, selfish, goal driven? How does this crystal/stone/rock affect you? **Only use one at a time to see the differences. ** I highly recommend that you DO NOT mix up using TWO OR MORE at the same time because this can result in some mixed vibrations that could make you sick, drained, tired, unable to sleep, angry for no reason, toxic positivity and more.
  • Put different ones under your pillow when you’re sleeping (obviously small tumbles that are flat, not huge specimens ahah)
  • Shamanic Journeying, help you either go further into a journey or come back from a journey easier (Advanced**)

Bonding with your New Friend

All of the above methods will inevitably result in bonding with your new found friend(s).

If you believe in animism, (like me), you would understand that every living thing from the earth, sea and sky are alive in some way, even if their forms are relatively stagnant looking.

If you haven’t researched about this, most crystals are crystalline in form due to accelerating at really, really fast speeds. I mean, that’s the whole point of why quartz watches are created and work. The Quartz inside the watch is literally a somewhat ‘motor’ and the gears function off of its fast oscillation.


Even if the quartz is exposed to low frequency oscillation, it will basically match what ever frequency that is needed. That’s why quartz watches keep in time. They don’t speed up and slow down. They maintain a frequency. It’s literal science. That’s the reason why Quartz, in the metaphysical (psychic/new age (eww new age)) phase of the 1990- early 2000, around when Scott Cunningham released his book did people start to give crystals, stones, minerals and rocks certain attributes. But most of them are garbage.

For the most part, what people say about the general stones, such as obsidian, calcite, selenite, quartz varieties, jaspers, aventurine, howlite, alllll the main ones. For the most part, the information is correct. Why? Because about 90% of all pagans would agree that an obsidian is a highly grounding stone and a quartz crystal is a highly tunable one.

But. Some. Some, are garbage. Why are they garbage? Because those, what I would call, “correspondences” (I’m doing air quotes here, with a very angry pagan face), are made by people who are blind, for people who are blinded from these “correspondences”. Oh woops, did I say something offensive? I really don’t give a flying fuck. Go read this: https://mystnokomis.home.blog/2019/04/15/plant-series-developing-friendships-with-plants-2/

If you want a summary of my thoughts on these “correspondences” tables and information, I frankly think that whoever came up with them, simply wanted a sure way to sell they’re products. Now. I know that’s not true for ALL pagans, heathens, witches and druids and other categories of occult practitioners. But. There’s a time and place for knowledge, and there’s a time and place for CORRECT INFORMATION.

The only person I would EVER get information from for <correspondences (aka, real correspondences)> would be a Wild Crafter, a Witch from Michigan, Detroit or Chicago ( I know, highly specific, but they’re good at what they do), a skilled and highly trained Shaman from a specific tradition, may it be Norse, Apache, Mongolian, Native American (including Canada (Inuit)), Aboriginal Australian or from any other tradition passed on for thousands of years. Those, are the people I would get <correspondences> from.

So, what do you do if you don’t have contact with any of these people? Just go to the rock/crystal/mineral/ whatever and say hello. State your Craft name if you have one. I would start of, with it in my hand, say Hi, I’m Mysty, I’m a witch, what do you do? They’ll normally reply within a few seconds and say Oh, oh! Hello! I’m rosemary. I’m great for protection, cleansing the home, warding off evil and developing your psychic gifts. I’m really happy you asked me. You know I’ve never really been asked that before.

They will be really happy to work with you and really honoured that you said hello to them. I’ve had the same herb or item that I’ve talked to I might pick out a few pieces (like seeds or whatever) and I’ll ask them again what they would like to be in this spell bottle and sometimes they’ll have a different role they want to play. It’s really interesting.

So, my advice, put the books down, and pick up your spell items and tools. Talk to them. Learn from them, get to know them and they will be not only be friendly with you, but will be so much more attuned with your energy and ready to work with you.

Thank you so much guys for reading.

Best Blessings,


Plant Series: Developing Friendships with Plants

Hey guys. Mysty here. Today, we’re going to talk more about plants! Yay plants.

This is the second episode of my Plant Series. Go see the first episode Do humble backyard weeds have a purpose? through this link: https://mystnokomis.home.blog/2019/03/30/do-humble-backyard-weeds-have-a-purpose/

I absolutely love plants and I adore them. I talk to all my herbs and plants that I have at home and I give them energy when they’re a bit down. When I do that I rush back to them the next day and it’s like they have new life again!

Developing a relationship with plant is not difficult but it does take some time and effort. The plant friendship I’ll be mainly talking about today is with the Mock Orange Tree. Murraya paniculata is the plant’s scientific name.

Well, in this post, I am expressing my anger and my feelings about the misconceptions of correspondences.

Now, I’m not going to go to any book, because quite frankly, I don’t give a shit what someone else has said about Oh this plant does this, this herb does that. Its good for protection and banishing. Quite frankly, fuck you to whoever thought of first putting that in a book and publishing it. It is absolute garbage because developing correspondences is completely personal and cannot be taken from a book.

Correspondences only come from developing an a) association to that thing e.g I associate blue as upliftment, empowerment and calm. Or from b) developing a relationship with said thing.

A plant relationship is about getting to know how you and the plant work together. Not from some book then go ask the plant Oh do you agree with this book that you don’t care about? It’s not going to give a flying fuck what someone says in a book or an article about it. Especially if the article goes straight into the Magickal Properties without any background at all.

Photo from Australian Plants Online(2019):

Also, each plant has its own spirit. So you can’t go to x wormwood then tell y wormwood ‘I’m going to start working with you now and now you have the same correspondences.‘ No. Unless that plant has said, ‘Yes I have homogeneous (which means all the same all the time) properties’. Which, thank Gods rosemary is consistent otherwise the Modern Witch would be doomed.

For example. I associate lemon basil flower tops. Yes specifically the flowers only. With new beginnings and I put that into my New Year spell I did on the first week of January this year.

Now if you go to someone else, they’re going to tell you that your information is wrong and that basil is used for prosperity, money and attracting abundance. Which is entirely different than new beginnings.

For the efforts of this post. Don’t take anything what I say here, and start going to a Basil plant or a Mock Orange Tree and start developing the same relationship I have. Because, its not going to work. Please develop your own relationships, correspondences with talking to them, with your intuition, trial and error to determine how you work with all plant species around you.

This goes for any Crystal, Rock or any other magickal tool or ingredient that you have or you are drawn to and would like to get from the wild, online or through stores.

So. Mock Orange Plant relationship time.

I was walking to a place in the city that I’ve never been before. Never taken the bus there, never seen it, I only had google maps and my sense of direction. My sense of direction was failing me and I was getting lost. I was getting frustrated. I was in a part of town I didn’t know and I just tried to calm down but I couldn’t for some reason. I sniffed in a familiar smell. I turned around and there it was! Yes, a large hedge of Mock Orange. I now knew I wasn’t alone. This Hedge was trying to call me into the right direction. I noticed there were little hedges all around the streets in front of a few houses. I looked on google maps, then to the trees. I realized that the correct direction could also be made while following the hedges, I couldn’t get lost after that.

It got me exactly to where I wanted to go. I knew that I was safe and there was no real reason to be afraid.

Even though this friendship has started way back to when I was a kid and I would play with the Trees, I never thought that this relationship would be so valuable until that point were I was seriously lost. As the flowers on my hedge at home were falling off, the flowers in that neighbourhood were open and gave me that smell to stop and think.

At home, I use the flowers as an offering to my Gods. Bastet loves them, Djeuti and my house Spirit Cassandra all love them and by doing so and asking the Tree for permission before taking the flowers I have actually started more of a magickal relationship with the Tree, building upon the relationship I had with it as a kid.

It was like the smell was guiding me back to where I was supposed to be. I definitely can’t explain all the emotions I felt in words because there’s no words to describe it. This Tree was talking to me. That’s the most simple answer I can say.

Remember that magickal correspondences are normally different to medical or scientific ones. These are mostly consistent from plant to plant. but, most herbs do actually have their own opinions and personalities of their own. They need to be treated as such.

Some ingredients will tell you before you use them use me to represent this. Because, it is normally specific to the spell. For example here are the things I used in my Rain spell coming up in a post soon:

  • Water Signifier: Blue candle wax, Mother of Pearl (crushed), blue ribbon, (Something blue)
  • Air representative: Ash, Incense, (Herb associated with air eg lavender), dandelion seeds.
  • Salt: To purify the bottle its going in.
  • Pumpkin Seeds to correspond and represent rain drops.

I feel the last one there is pretty special as that came by asking the seeds about what they wanted to be representative of. You never know.

Song of the Day: Oyneng Yar – Faun.

Thanks for reading everyone, best blessings to you. Go and develop those fun relationships with your tools, your herbs, plants, trees, stones and crystals. Because at the end of the day, some correspondences in books may help point you in the right direction, but for me, I struggle with book definitions and find them off.